"…By what stretch of arrogance do you think a life form that looks like you is more important than a life form that doesn’t?”Joel Salatin

Nothing is more beneficial to your wellbeing than to look for and acknowledge those parts of everyday life that you enjoy.

"If you are happy where you are now, why does it matter how painful it was to get there?" -- Abraham

"It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life." -- Bilbo Baggins a.k.a. The Hobbit by JRR Tolkien

"And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet, and the winds long to play in your hair." -- Kahill Gibran

“And forget not

Friday, July 20, 2012

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Moonlight and Roses

I went out to my sister's at Lake Arrowhead last night and upon leaving, the full moon lighted my way back to the car. It was stunning as always when its still low in the sky. With Valentines Day strong on my mind, I remembered an old Jim Reeves song, "Moonlight and Roses ... bring wonderful memories of you." I went in search of the song but Itunes only listed Karoke versions and one by someone else. It was late so that was as far as I went. I know my kids will find it and send it to me before Valentines Day gets here.

On the last Valentine's Day that Ronnie worked at PPG, I decided to send him a snack basket. We had a huge heart shaped balloon that, when tapped, it played "I Wanta Hold Your Hand." I bought a boat load of snacks and put them into a big basket, wrapped it up and was going to have the delivery man take it out to PPG, then I remembered Ronnie saying that anything edible that came into the breakroom seemed to be a gift to all. Even though I knew he didn't need to eat all those snacks himself, I didn't want anyone to ruin the moment for him. He was working the evening shift, so when I got off work, I drove out there and put the basket with the balloon tied to it inside his pickup, then I went home to wait.

He came in about twelve thirty grinning from ear to ear. He said when he opened the door of his truck, the balloon floated toward him and he thought he had an intruder so he punched it and it started screaming "I wanta hold your hand!"

We laughed about that everytime we thought about it. And he loved it. He loved it when I made him know he was special to me -- and he was very special to me.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

As I begin this brand new day, my dominant intent is to feel good. Nothing is more important or more essential to my wellbeing than that I look for that which pleases me. So, today, regardless of where I am, what I'm doing or who is with me, I will look for that which pleases me. I will give others the benefit of the doubt because I want everyone to thrive and flourish and I know no one wishes anything for me but the best.

The hip pain is gone. I knew if the flooring work could smooth out so would my level of happiness and the aggravating discomfort would dissipate. It's like my foundation is sturdy again. I can not express how wonderful it feels to walk in there, and have a solid floor beneath my feet.

Two days ago, I was thinking about selling the house and renting an apartment to get away from this but today I feel totally different. I have brand new windows and a brand new central heating and cooling system -- and now I can see that soon, I'm going to have new floors and that everything eventually will be put back in place and I can spread out in my own space. I'll be able to sit at my desk with my brand new Mac computer and look out at my back yard, which gives me about the same view as looking out my back door.

That deep inside sadness returned sometime last week -- probably partly due to my house being in such a mess, but today, it's gone again.

Today I get to go to work and help get ready for Valentines Day. Dan the Handy Man is supposed to pick up the flooring I bought yesterday. Life is good and it is supposed to be enjoyable, so let's get on with it.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

What does Happy Feel Like

As I begin this brand new day, my dominant intent is to be happy. Nothing is more important or more essential to my well-being than that I look for that which pleases me, that I find fun, interesting, joyful things to think about and talk about. So today, regardless of where I am, what I'm doing or who is with me, I will focus on the things around me that please me. In other words, I'm gonna get happy – in every way I can.

So what does happy feel like on a day to day, minute by minute basis? Probably more pleased than displeased, more satisfied than aggravated. Happy might come when you feel the relief of letting go of or giving up a struggle that seems hopeless and has seemed so for quite a while. You might feel it when you make the decision to stop worrying about anything and everything, when you finally say, "That's it. That's all I can do," or "This problem really doesn't belong to me, so why am I stressing out about it?"

Happy could be playing with a pet, your child or grandchild. It can be seeing new growth on a favorite plant in the window, seeing a good mood smile on the face of a loved one. Happy comes in fleeting moments that we often don't notice or stop to appreciate.

For me it's when I see the daffodils and iris come up in my flowerbeds after a deep freeze of a winter. It comes when I see that my gold fish and koi are still alive in my pond after having a sheet of ice over it for several days. It happens when a sweet fragrance comes to me from the flowers in the cooler every day, or from clean towels or sheets.

I feel happy when I have a fresh package of paper, a page of postage stamps, or a new notebook to write in. I feel it when I have a stretch of time that isn't already obligated to something else. I feel it every time I sell a book, every time I pull up and stop in my driveway and see my house waiting for me to come inside. I feel it every morning when I smell the fresh coffee brewing, when I watch the sun come up through my beautiful new windows and when I watch the sun set, painting the sky in pinks and lavenders.

I feel happy when I walk into my bedroom and see that I made the bed earlier.

I feel happiness when I get animal pictures via email. I feel it when I see the cute faces of teddy bears and other stuffed animals.

Happy feels like seeing my children, my grandchildren and old friends. It's seeing their name come up on my cell phone. It's finding those sturdy paper coffee cups that come with clamp on lids in a stack of ten for a dollar. It's cold wind blowing on my face when I'm having a hot flash. It's having a hot flash when I'm cold.

We humans have a tendency to consider happiness as a long term situation, sometimes even a future goal and in doing that, we minimize the importance of or completely ignore these momentary bits of joy that can occur hundreds of times a day—if we're paying attention. Life is now. This moment right now is the only guaranteed time we have, so why spend it agonizing about current events over which you have little or no control? Look for the things that please you. You'll be surprised how many different things in life will make you smile. You might be surprised at how much better you'll feel about a whole bunch of stuff when you "get happy -- in every way you can".

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