"…By what stretch of arrogance do you think a life form that looks like you is more important than a life form that doesn’t?”Joel Salatin


Nothing is more beneficial to your wellbeing than to look for and acknowledge those parts of everyday life that you enjoy.


"If you are happy where you are now, why does it matter how painful it was to get there?" -- Abraham


"It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life." -- Bilbo Baggins a.k.a. The Hobbit by JRR Tolkien


"And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet, and the winds long to play in your hair." -- Kahill Gibran

“And forget not




Wednesday, August 12, 2015

It's About Fun

Ronnie introduces the pigeons and chickens to Seth.


August 6  marked the fourth anniversary of my husband's passing. In some ways it feels like it's been a long four years, and in others if feels like he was here yesterday. The night Ronnie was given the diagnosis and prognosis, we lay together in his hospital bed. He told me, "Don't spend a lot of time being sad about this.  You still have a lot of life to live. Go have fun."

Shortly before Ronnie look his last earthly breath, a friend of ours, Peter Nillson, posted a link to Abba's song, "Move On." You can watch it here.

This song literally saved my sanity. The images the video maker, sssmacdann, used are as moving and as jubilant as the words to the song. The two together spoke to me in ways that I have never experienced before.




Images from "Move On".











Life is, indeed, motion -- forward.  It is, in fact, the only way to go. I will forever be grateful to sssmacdann, whoever you are, for making the video and to Peter for introducing it to me.

I've never been much of a party person. I don't have much rhythm, but I love many different kinds of music and I love to watch people dance. My kids  don't say it, but they think I'm boring and that I don't know how to have fun. Our interests are not the same, to say the least. Lol

"Fun" means different things to different people. To me, fun is being with people I enjoy, having heart to heart conversations about life and love, getting to know one another and myself better, growing to appreciate each other more, sharing memories of family, comparing experiences and discussing our different beliefs.  I have lots of friends who make me laugh. That's always fun.  I have wonderful  group of writers I see once a month.


Shelbie




Fun, to me, is also sitting on the patio, just me and Shelbie Pie, listening to music, running my fingers through her coat that's always as soft as cotton.  










Pink and lavender sky
It's sitting out in the yard and watching the motion of my beloved pecan trees in the wind.  It's listening to the soft cooing of the pigeons as they settle in for the night.  It's the drone of the crickets and locusts and the night birds. It's watching the sun come up over the trees casting pink and lavender colors on the clouds against a clear blue sky, listening to the morning birds.

It's watching the approach of storm clouds and anticipating rain!

It's watching a good movie without interruption, or watching a good movie with friends.

It's seeing my critters move about the yard. It's hearing that distinctive "peep" come from under my hen that tells me her eggs have hatched.  It's getting a glimpse of one of her baby chicks sitting on her back, just like in pictures. It's finding a new cantaloupe in my garden and then a watermelon. It's watching them get bigger.

Fun, for me, is when my five year old grandson hollers "I highly approve of you!" as we turn in for the night. It's seeing his Legos creations and hearing the stories he makes up when he puts SpongeBob's head on Marge Simpson's body -- and knowing I can encourage his imagination by paying attention, showing interest, asking questions -- even when the story doesn't make sense. 

Abraham says life is supposed to be fun. I believe that.  I also believe we each define "fun" for ourselves. Some of us look for it, some of us don't. 

My mother told me once, "You owe it to yourself and your creator to enjoy as much of this life as possible, so look for something to enjoy about everything you have to do."

Good advice. So was Ronnie's. Both pieces turned out to be a life changers for me.  I am having fun.


One of two cantaloupes -- so far.










6 comments:

  1. Fun is where you find it. The finest kind, like love, is homemade with friends and family. This is a really good read. Thanks for sharing it.

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  2. Thank you, Paula. I shared it to my family. My brother will be gone a year tomorrow. Thanks again. Charlotte Coss

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  3. Thank you for your advice and your friendship. I miss you more than this comment box can hold.

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  4. Paula, it was an honor and a blessing to know you. Your friendship and encouragement and love for family, friends and writing will forever live on. This post is the perfect final one from you. I wish that it wasn't but I know you are enjoying your time with Ronnie now.

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  5. I always felt lucky to have such an awesome Mom.

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  6. thank you paula for our connection online and in heart

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